Sunday, December 15, 2019

Reflections of Fall

2019 is almost at an end.  It has been a while since we have posted anything so here are some of our favorite memories from this autumn.

Samantha officially contracted in the Army ROTC program at UNC.  Rich got to swear her in for an awesome bonding moment. In 2021 she will be an college graduate (second degree) and an Army officer!   

Grant had a great season as goalie for the U8 Fuquay Varina Soccer team, The Menace! In a blow out final, The Menace dominated - or as Grant misspeaks "denominated" - over the opposing team. This is Grant's second championship team this year!
Cattan rules. Rich and I don't get Cattan, but everyone else does including Aunt Linda who came to visit for Thanksgiving. The kitchen table was occupied for several days looking like this. Sam's boyfriend, Mitch, will have to learn how to play to fill that fourth seat.
Run, run, get some! Getting ready for the 2020 Dopey Challenge means lots of miles now.  The autumn sky has been spectacular this year. Getting to run with Rich (when he stays with me) is a good excuse to spend time together. I started doubling up on back to back long runs and will log over 500 miles for the year - a PR!  Disney here I come.
Run, run, get some Rich!  Rich ran the Holly Springs Half Marathon in November. He discovered that the hill out of Bass Lake and up Sugg Hill Farms can really wear you down but he pushed hard for the last three miles and finished strong. Rich set a PR at just over 1:45.We spent the afternoon at Shawn and Denette's house drinking beers, eating smoked turkey and listening to Rich and Shawn strategize for Disney.
Grant turned 9 years old - wow, where did that time go? His presents include Bey Blades (metal, spinning tops that battle each other) and a 750+ piece LEGO 3-in-1 set. For the first time, Grant did all of the work himself with dad locating the parts for him as an assistant.
Look who's back! Ho Ho Ho, our mischievous elf-on-the-shelf found his way back to the Brown household getting into the LEGOs, the Bey Blades, and just about everything else of Grant's.  There must be some connection!
The holidays are here. We went to the very crowded Fuquay Varina Christmas Tree lighting ceremony. TJ is rocking the hoodies lately, yes he getting into "that" age. Even at this age, TJ is still a sweetheart.  

How How from the Y-Guides Saber Tooth Storm Troopers who marched in the Holly Springs Christmas Parade!  The lousy rain stopped just in time for thousands of people to line the parade route. The kids had a blast handing out candy to all of the spectators. 








It must be time to decorate the tree because Santa has come to town!  This was our second Fuquay Varina Christmas Parade. We had perfect seats across from The Mill to watch all the floats go by, ending of course, with and exuberant Santa on his sleigh! 

Tuesday, December 10, 2019

Musical Beds (or Sleepless in Fuquay)

This family has trouble sleeping their own bed. When TJ was little, like any toddler, he would wander into Lisa’s and my bedroom at o-dark-thirty to get into our bed and snuggle.  Grant became a master at not staying in his bed. He would start in his bed and then end up on the floor, underneath his mini-loft bed. After that he just started sleeping under the mini-loft altogether.  Grant’s visits to our room were frequent, often times it was several times in the night. Like me, he is an early riser so add a 5:30am visit to get mom’s iPad.

Somewhere after my deployment and I got home I struggled to sleep all night in the bed.  I’d find myself up at 2am tossing to fall back to sleep.  It did not help that Lisa has a tendency to breathe heavy (read, snore). I would end up down stairs on the couch watching my phone until about 4am-ish and then sleep for another 90 minutes until the alarm went off.  I found the couch had a certain level of comfort that I could not achieve in bed and the sleep there seemed to be the best sleep of the night.

Keep in mind that sometimes Grant would come in as I was dealing with my insomnia by heading to the couch so that two people were changing beds in the night. Sometimes it would be my turn to snore and I would chase Lisa out of bed and Grant would come in; and if Grant started snoring then I would go downstairs. That's three people switching beds.

Lately it has been Lisa’s turn to deal with the early morning fits of sleeplessness. I have rolled over at 3am to find her scrolling through her phone unable to settle down. When my alarm goes off there is a vacant spot and I go to look for Lisa in one of several places she might have crashed; Sam’s bed, the upstairs couch, in with the boys, or down on the comfy couch. Today it was the comfy couch. 

TJ has gotten much better at staying in his bed. Now 12½ he falls asleep quickly and is hard to wake up in the morning.

The only one in the family who does not play this game is Samantha.  When she goes to her room, she closes the door and is not seen again until daylight.


Thursday, August 29, 2019

Dachau

During my last visit to Germany I was able to visit Dachau Concentration Camp, just outside of Munich.  

It is eerie walking into a place that is so infamous with torture, mass murder, and genocide. Even on a warm summer's day, things still seem still.  While it is empty of anyone but tourists, one cannot walk the grounds without imagining the guards in their towers, the dogs barking, officers shouting orders and then the wretched mass of humanity that suffered and died here.  

You enter the only places left of Dachau; you enter the barracks area through the guard office through a gate that reads, "Work is Freedom," walking along the same path that so many entered through and so few ever left.  The Maintenance Building is now a museum/memorial to the victims.  Not just Jews, but Gypsies, dissidents, homosexuals, Poles, Soviets, the unwanted of the Nazi Regime. They were beaten.  They were experimented on. They were executed and incinerated. It is all there there to see. 

Although I was traveling with three others, I seemed to take all of this in alone. It seemed like a lot of people who came in groups processed it with inward reflection. I took my time trying to grasp what I already new about the Holocaust and the Concentration Camps. Through official Nazi photographs and the liberators film, all of the horrors are captured - paired with the words of the survivors.  It. Is. Hard. To. Witness.  And yet by witnessing it we help ensure genocide does not happen again.

The reconstructed barracks gives another grim display of what like was like. Men, two and three to a space originally designed to sleep one.  In fact, Dachau was built for 6,000 but housed 60,000 by the end of the war. I simply cannot imagine the despair.  That is until I walked to a guard tower where the sign showed the "kill zone" before the fence - the space where the guards could shoot prisoners who stepped into the area.  A choice many made to end their suffering.  

The flow of visitors eventually leads to the crematorium, still intact. The area around it is now a garden but with reminders of what happened 75 to 80 years ago, "Execution Wall with Blood Ditch," and "Untold Thousands Buried," and "Ash Grave of Thousands" There was so much human ash that it was simply buried after the liberation where it was found. The crematorium is now a brochure version of what it was. It is sanitized, freshly painted, and devoid of any sign that people were suffocated with poison; a death that took up to 20 minutes. Standing in that room is to stand among ghosts. Ghosts of the last moments of people who were trying to figure out what about them made others fear and hate them.

Two rooms later you step into the crematorium - the ovens.  Doors open you peer into the blackness of the ovens.  A sign tells you that many prisoners (perhaps because the guards were too lazy to drag the bodies) hung their victims in front of the ovens. This is sacred ground.  



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I told Lisa today that I was very fortunate. My good fortune comes from my family, my friends, and my career.  I was fortunate to see a place like Dachau and to bear the visions of that place in order to tell my children. While Dachau was indeed a horrible place, it reminds me to be a better human being and to be kind. Not many bad things come out of being kind to one another.